Break up’s can be a soul crushing experience, especially if they are your first love and you feel a deep connection. Studies prove that you never truly get over your first relationship, sometimes the bond can be so powerful that you feel you have met your soul-mate. Just because he, or she has decided to end it, doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to walk away and forget all the time you spent together. If you truly feel there was no proper reason for your separation and there is a chance to have a friendship, or even reunite in the future, then maybe its time to text your ex back.
Thank’s to social media, and this generation been all about technology, it is easier than ever to communicate with someone special. For those out there among us who are shy, have difficulties expressing their feelings, or simply want to take things slow then texting is your best option. The benefit of this is you do not have to feel awkward meeting them face to face and you can re-establish communication, without feeling pressure outside with other people. Many couples forget the original bond of communication that brought them together in the first place, once you get that back you may have a chance.
On the day you decide to text your ex back remain calm. Think carefully about what direction you would like to move forward in, perhaps just to get a friendship back, or to consider trying to be a couple again. Once you have figured out that important premise it’s time to start slow and friendly. Forget all the pet names you called each other. This is a major mistake Ex’s make when they start to talk again, they are use to being on friendlier more romantic terms and this can get slightly tense.
Your first text is going to show them exactly how you feel about them. If you come across too friendly it might be off-putting, you can’t be sure if they are ready for that or not. Send them a friendly greeting, a simple Hello, how are you? Plus there is no harm in a few smiley faces, this can ease the situation and keep it on mutual terms. Once they respond you will be able to read better how they are after hearing from you. Try to keep the conversation flowing, and above all else avoid any serious conversations and questions.
Never ask if they are seeing someone else, or how they feel about the break up. All you will be doing is creating unnecessary drama. The process of building a friendship with an ex-partner can be slow moving so have patience, remember sometimes it is best to give each other space. Once you have had a basic chat to get the conversation moving, look out for clues that they are uncomfortable. If you think they are not ready for anything more, then it’s time to back away, give them space. Be respectful at all times.